Why Do People Occasionally Lie to their Therapist? Understanding Trauma and Human Reflexes
There are many pills and tonics to treat physical ailments. But finally, people have started acknowledging the mental turmoil and suppressed personality disorders that emerge as a result of traumatic or repressed incidents of the past.
Today, many people are seeking help from therapists. Yet, in a study conducted by Counseling Psychology Quarterly, 93% of the 547 adults who had gone into therapy confessed to lying to their therapists. This is definitely a big proportion of people who are not being completely open to their therapists.
However, it is not always deliberate.
Most of the time, patients are unconsciously covering information or misquoting incidents due to their personal qualms about a certain memory. After all, the mystery is why would someone lie intentionally to therapists when they are willingly scheduling the therapy session and sitting through them for hours?
The few reasons that psychologists identified behind the misinformation conveyed by the patients are discussed below.
1. Impression management- being ashamed of their deeds thus hating to confess
One of the central reasons why patients often lie to their therapists is because they loathe revealing the unpleasant side of their character. They themselves are so riddled with guilt, and a heavy conscience about their character deterioration and the misdeeds they may have performed in their moment of weakness or agony, that they hate to own up to it. Patients are wary that the therapist will apportion them with blame for their imperfect life, thus they try and evade their own flaws when narrating the story. After all, who would like to pay for a session to be told that the problem is with the person himself?
2. Therapists are strangers and resultingly unreliable.
Most of the people in therapy have a turbulent past. Therefore, they are always hesitant in establishing trust. There is always this underlying fear of discovering a knife thrust at their back. This is the reason why usually consecutive therapy sessions are charted because initially, it takes time for the patient to establish trust in the therapist. The first few sessions are spent building a rapport and laying the groundwork for crude confessions.
3. The first-person narrative may be flawed by personal misgivings
As discussed earlier, the patient may be subconsciously evading critical information or misinterpreting it. For example, the patient may have discovered a betrayal by their closest family member but, chooses to gloss over the incident by revealing contorted facts. This is not always intentional. Similarly, a person may be an alcoholic but describe himself as an occasional drinker. These are just examples of how usually the patients may lie to their therapists to find a solution to their problem without disrupting their fantasy of having a perfect life.
There are also instances when a patient may reveal fragmented information about himself at the therapy because they fail to make the connection between their problem and the cause. A student failing consecutively in exams might not be able to recognize his parents’ separation as the reason. The key to successful therapy is trusting the therapists, and if after repeated sessions, you are still wary of him, you must change your consultant. The first step to a change in life is to appreciate that you need to change.
More inHealth & Fitness
ELDERBERRIES: Learn about These Powerful, Immune-Strengthening Tart Little Fruits!
What would you do if someone handed you a capsule that could regulate your blood sugar level, help you lose weight,...December 14, 2020
Here’s How You Should Deal with The Stress of Holiday Travelling
The holidays are meant to be the greatest time of the year, yet they turn out to be extremely stressful. Everyone...December 12, 2020
Life Is Beautiful – A Few Easy Tips to Find the Road to Happiness
Have you ever wondered why you search for your phone when it’s in your hand? It may sound strange, but a...December 11, 2020
How To Prepare For A Military Marriage
Going out with some girl-friends, you notice a group of guys wearing what seems to be camouflage uniform. One of them...December 9, 2020
Always Running Late? Here’s what that Says About Your Personality and Chances at Success
Constant tardiness is a trait that’s often seen in a negative light, especially in professional scenarios. However, people who are always...December 6, 2020
Overcome Self-Doubt and Become More Confident at Work with these Insecurity-Busting Tips
It’s only normal to feel self-doubt in our daily lives, especially at work. That doesn’t mean that you can’t fight and...December 3, 2020
From Nomad to British Lord: How a Care Worker Inherited a $65 Million Estate after Growing up Poor
Jordan Adlard Rogers’ current good fortune couldn’t be any more different than the one he grew up with. After living a...December 1, 2020
Strategies for Achieving Your Goals and Improving Your Life
Are you one of those people who fail to comply with their new year’s resolutions every year? Well, you are not...December 1, 2020
The Lotteries, Both Powerball and Mega Millions, hold $596 Million: What to Do If You Win!
The chances that you will end up winning both of the most popular lottery events in the country are pretty slim,...November 30, 2020