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Why You Should Date Someone Who Loves You More

Going on a date with someone is a great feeling. It highlights the stage of courtship when two different persons get to know each other. As they say, it is during this stage where the guy tries to impress the girl – putting his best foot forward to win her heart and get the much-awaited “yes” after he asked if she could be his girl.

Many moms and grandmothers out there are still saying this time-honored adage: “Marry a man who loves you just a little more than you love him.” A persistent truism, it still shows up with predictable regularity in advice columns and comes out of the mouth of many female folks during their girls’ talk.

With this in mind, we’ve thought of citing some of the many advantages as to why dating and eventually settling with someone who loves you more than you do for him.

Why Is It Wiser To Choose Someone Who Loves You More?

There Is A Higher Chance That He Will Always Pay Attention And Put You First.

The man who loves you more than you love him will remember every detail of every story you ever tell him. When a guy is a head over heels in love with a woman, even the minuscule details of her life become really important to him. And because he loves you more than you love him, he will always put you first in every single situation.

If you tell your guy something in passing, and he brings it up to you a few weeks or a few months later, just know that not only is he intently paying attention to everything you say, but he really truly cares! Deep down inside he probably wishes you loved him just as much to remember all the small details of his life, too, but for now, he’s fine with being the one who loves more.

This “He Loves Me More Than I Do” Set-Up Protects Your Heart The Most.

If you love a man more, there is a tendency that you’ll suffer more. So if you’re a type of gal who tends to give too much in the relationship whenever you’re in love, well it’s time to get rid of it. You really shouldn’t.

Some experts say that the man should outdo himself emotionally, physically and every other way. Doing this spare you from much pain of heartaches. Let’s say you don’t suffer as much if he leaves because you didn’t love him more. Makes sense, right?

Does It Really Make Moving On And Letting Go A Lot Easier? Maybe.

Relationships do fall apart. People break up. If your man loves you more, you can move on that much more quickly. It’s like it’s quite easy to grow bitter when a man leaves you and you feel like you’ve given up your hopes and dreams. That same anger simmers because you loved him so. Healing then becomes a challenge and so as of course, moving on.

When He Loves You More, He Would NOT Want To Leave You.

For the guy who loves you more than you love him, saying goodbye to you will be one of the hardest things for him to do at the end of the day. While you’re quickly trying to push him out the front door, he is slowly dying inside at the mere thought of having to leave you.

If you catch him slowly gathering his belongings, pouting as he walks towards the door, and hesitating before driving off, just know that he is deeply in love with you. As soon as he leaves, you’ll be the only thing on his mind, and he will be counting down the seconds until he can be back in your arms once again. And we’re sure most girls look for that kind of guy especially these days, right?

Basically, women desire security – they want to be assured. They need to be reassured that the man they are with will stay put. So, women build a relationship with a man who loves them more.

What SCIENCE Says About This?

Generally, it benefits women to pick a man who is far more in love with her than she is with him because that FEELS like he will stick around, and so you (and your future little ones) can have all his resources.

However, this is the exact thing many men hate about a relationship and commitment to a woman. Research shows that men fall in love faster, and way harder than women do. And, research was done by the well-respected Anthropologist Helen Fisher, also shows that MEN are far more idealistic about love and relationships than women are.

On the other hand, the study revealed that women are more pragmatic as she thinks of more practical scenarios of surviving life with him and not just focusing on the feeling of being in love.

Fairy Tales And The Media Have Shaped The Way We Think About Love.


We may need to disregard and think outside the box in a way and form our own expectations of what we want out of a relationship. We’re freer to live our lives the way we want, why are holding so fast to some of these fairy tale expectations of love and all the characteristics one person, your partner, should have?

Let’s bear in mind that love means different things to different people and there’s no right or wrong way to love, there is only what works for you. If you haven’t already, figure out what that it means to you, what it looks like in practice so that you’ll know it when you find it.

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